What Is 'EQ' And Why You Want To Improve Yours
Updated: Jun 13, 2020
Mastering your relationships with others and with yourself means maximising your success and happiness.
As Travis Bradberry, bestselling coauthor of “Emotional Intelligence 2.0” explains, IQ isn’t a predictor of success, as “people with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70% of the time”.
Since the 90’s, research has shown that Emotional Intelligence is what determines your success. So you really want to up your EQ game!
In my experience, there are 2 fronts on which EQ must be developed:
1) Understanding how others feel & Managing relationships
"People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel."
There is a HUGE ADVANTAGE TO SIMPLY BEING LIKED. When they like you, people trust your word over that of others, forgive your mistakes, do you favours, get excited when they can help you.
Suddenly you feel less stressed, you can get more done, free your time to do your best work, and take calculated risks knowing that others have full confidence in you, even if you may be wrong sometimes.
2) Understanding your own feelings & Managing your happiness
A grandfather is talking with his grandson and explains that there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.
One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.
The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second. Then he looks up at his grandfather and asks, “Grandfather, which wolf wins?”
The grandfather quietly replies, “The one you feed.”
- Cherokee tale
Negative emotion is the bane of productivity; what’s worse, it doesn’t let you enjoy life. The good news is that your happiness is a choice you can control and it should be resilient to external factors.
It’s ok and totally normal to feel down on your luck sometimes, but it’s also your responsibility to keep negative feelings in check and bounce back to a default, happy state. As Vivian Green said, “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning how to dance in the rain.”
Interested in learning more?
Do you want to improve your EQ as a manager, or help your team improve theirs to boost employee performance or retention? Get in touch with me and let’s have a chat, https://calendly.com/paolo-pironi/30min